Love - Oh Boy...
Okay, I know this post is following the sticker post, but I really didn't want to leave that hanging out there as the last thought on the blog. :) So here is something a little heavier:
Well here it is, the mother of all topics, the worst (and best) four letter word that has ever entered into the consciousness of mankind... LOVE.
Well what do I know about it? Not much, but as always, I do have some thoughts. I think that there are two very distinct views on love. Some people believe that love is some fairy-dusted, flowery substance that was destined for two people before the dawn of time, and then there is what I believe. I believe that love is something that does not have a creation date. Love is something that can only be realized later and the creation point will always be mystery. This is what makes it so illusive.
This topic is so very complicated. I mean first you need to understand the difference between emotions, thoughts, and love. Love is not something that you feel, nor is it something that you think, it is something that is. Boy that is so deep that I don't even know if I understand it...
I believe that if you spend enough time with someone, and you devote enough of yourself to them, then over time you will find that you love them. I also believe that once you love someone that there is no going back. You may not like them anymore, or even tolerate them, but you will always love them.
This is why you see women in abusive relationships that keep going back to the guy. That abusive person has captured their love over time and they will never be free of that piece of their heart. (sometimes you have to accept how you feel about someone, but still reject them in your life) That is why it is crucial that you use your head early on in a relationship, and not let the emotions take over before you finally fall in love with someone.
The order is very important - think, feel, love. This is how it works people, don't mess it up, because when you are there, there is NO going back.
posted by Jeffy @ 9:00 PM
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4 Comments:
Dude, that's one of the coolest things I've ever read.
Thanks for commenting on my blog. Which was weirdly, ABOUT LOVE....kinda.
~SpEnSe(LilDevilDude)
LOVED the blog entry about love. Even though I'm very young I do understand every word that was said. Because honestly I have been in love before and even though it didnt work out we both know that we will always love eachother. You may have not known at the moment but you sendin me your link helped me out alot. THANKS!
It's good to see you're back on the writing, I was beginning to think you gave up.
You've got a general outline here, but it certainly lacks some depth.
The only thing I disagree with you on is the "no going back" thing. I think that is wrong, especially in the confines of your premise.
Considering you are speaking of romantic love, which is different than say the love you have for your mother, the love you have for your pet or the love you have for and item or hobby, people go back quite often.
Using an example of an abused spouse, is flawed. Typically a person trapped in an abusive relationship has any number of reasons for it. However, the ones that "keep going back" have intrinsic issues with co-dependency that were present even before the "love" of their "misunderstood" spouse.
On the opposite side of the "no going back" theory I offer you the numerous examples of 30 year marriages that ended in divorce. To hear someone say, "we were so in love, I've never loved anyone as much." Followed by, "But over time, we just stopped loving one another, there was nothing there, and eventually I felt nothing."
Would anyone doubt the sincerity of this? To spend 30+ years of your life, having children, incredible life events shared and trying to make it somehow work when the love began to fade. Could anyone honestly say, "well, they never truly loved one another?" It's absurd.
My point is, that as strong as the bonds of love may be, those bonds can be broken and are broken, especially over time.
One last thought, you've heard the old saying, "There’s a thin line between love and hate," and that's true. Many people believe that the opposite of love is hate, but that is incorrect. The opposite of love is indifference, to feel nothing. 30 years of marriage and the lady says she feels nothing, she doesn't hate him, she's indifferent. And in indifference, there’s no going back.
Wow Mike, you got me thinking on this one. I'll get back to you...
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